PRIMA May 2008
When her marriage collapsed and she became ill, a friend’s message gave Janet Ludlow, 38, from Sheffield a new perspective.
“When Nicky and I met outside our sons’ playgroup a couple of years ago, I never imagined the role she’d play in my life. Chats turned to lunches, then girlie nights out.But I only discovered what a true pal Nicky was when my life began to crumble.
“In July 2006, I went from being
a married stay-at-home mum to a single mother.My husband, David and I split up, and I had to cope alone, bringing up
our sons – Jamie, who’s now two, and
“I’d given up my career as an air hostess to have kids, but suddenly I needed to find work.Looking for a job, arranging childcare and dealing with a divorce was stressful.On top of that, my confidence plummeted.I wondered if anyone else could ever love me.
“Although I tried to put on a brave face, Nicky saw through it.She was the first person I’d confided in about my marriage break-up, giving me a hug and listening unconditionally.It was the first of many soul-searching chats and if it hadn’t been for her, I don’t know how I’d have coped.She was so supportive, arranging fun nights out, or sitting me down with a glass of wine and some good advice.
“By May 2007, I was just getting my head around things and had landed a job as a waitress, when I went into hospital for a routine operation.Something went wrong and I lost five pints of blood.I pulled through but was told there’d be a six-week recovery period, during which I couldn’t work and, as a result, I lost my job.I was at an all-time low when Nicky, 37, came round with an envelope for me.I ripped it open to discover a poem she’d written.I cried when I read it – she’d written that although our friendship was relatively new, she’d always be there for me.She also said my courage had inspired her.I was touched to read lines such as ‘You’ve astounded me with how you’ve kept it together, staying focused on the kids,’ and, ‘Thanks for being an incredible inspiration, for showing how to embrace life without hesitation.’
“Nicky’s poem made me feel so positive that I put all my efforts into finding another job and now have one I enjoy, in customer services.I’m also ready to give love a second chance and have recently started internet dating.If I’m ever in doubt, just looking at Nicky’s letter spurs me on.”
Nicky composed her poem with the help of The Poetry Studio, which tailor-makes poems.Visit www.thepoetrystudio.co.uk.